Okiey dokiey, we are all allowed to feel however we want and there's permit to express different views or thoughts and this is what we term as acceptance to own ones opinion. What some folks term as right may be disregarded by others as total wrong. Every human race hold some human standards, values and norms plus principles that safeguards each and everyone's conduct for a sane life in an organized society. Immorality can be but anything that possesses no morality - and there are tons of them. Religious or not, we all believe in the law of good and bad- we must understand that living the virtuous or attaining some degree of virtues does not inherently mean seeking for perfection but striving or better say willingness to improve oneself. The world is evolving and revolving, denoting and connoting change. This change we try to accept, adjust to and imbibe into. In our modern enlightened society, the segment part of it is our sexualized society-regarding the fact that sex has be...

“ Bullshit everywhere, same shit all the time and so it' s a widespread syndromes of all time ” .. " It is not until someone drag you into hell that you know the world isn't a fair place for all of us " Says Afoke a 27 year old entrepreneur who was one among the other female who shared their own version of Abuse experiences. "I lived in my world where my destiny had it all decided for me by my parents. I was sent to a distant relation's house to help with house chores and baby sitting, housemaid job we call it in my culture and you dare not object to as it a means of surviving in a poor family. I ain't the poor thing, my parents were. They don't have enough money to cater for all 8 children with their own mouth to feed making us a total no of 10 in an old fashioned house my grandpa left my father with. Peasant farmers owns life happiness because they can make their own food but it wasn't an easy thing to always wait till harvest time before...

Virginity does not break or make us. They say it is the greatest gift we ever could present to our man, no it isn't! Every part of a woman is a gift to her husband. To be a good girl does not lies in being a virgin. Teach the young girl to love herself, cherish her body and be aware that she's a complete human, special and beautiful. Her virginity is a state of her sexual innocence which shed her away from external circumstances. She's not naïve or a holier-than-thou. She can be smart, intelligent and curious. Good upbringing is never telling her to remain a virgin till she gets married or that her husband will cherish her has no say in this. Let her know virginity is not a guarantee to a good marriage nor to finding a good man. What attracts a good man is her invaluable quality which reflects in and out of her with no perfection, reminding her she is not impeccable and it's fine. It's a choice made not because of moral persuasion or religious obligation and whet...

It warms my cockle to write to you both. It's been half a decade we saw. Pretty years past. It occur to me more vividly how you twos have to face life's struggle all to yourself. I recalled your mother had a post natal death and the pain that strucked when my elder brother, your father, died of Leukemia Ten years ago. Life has showed you both it's grievances just too early enough. My heart longed for you both, as the awareness of your welfare filters to my hearing. Often times, I wished I could have a firsthand oversight over both of you, albeit we are undeniably several seas and mountains apart from each other. How well, having heard of the many shots and trails the two of you are undergoing, I feel it is needful I write from my corner to you both, shedding you from becoming victim of happenstance. It is worth noting that you both are grown ups, now in mid-twenties. Wisdom is then needed for direction and redirection. To begin with, can I ask, how are you doing, Leo...

Each time I think its over,am out of a mess, life kicks me down double times again. Does it mean I pray less? Does it mean am not smart enough? Does it mean am not even intelligent at all? Or how can God be so quiet in times of depression? Did he even exist at all? Well, when some situations open face you would want to give God an invitation,sit him down and begin to ask questions you needed urgent answers to. But then, life never issued anyone a free trials entry pass. Never have I seen any man who had it all sweet without sour. If God had showed us the hell we gonna pass through to make it through, we could had told him to make the journey hell free. But He Never did showed us. All prayers then lead to dear Lord never let any struggles to strangles. WHAT ARE YOUR LIFE STRESSOR(s)? Parent loss. Relationship loss. Job loss. Grief. Failure. Loneliness. Heart break. Unemployment. Unwanted pregnancy Or may be there's a completely different kind of stressor i...

I mailed this anonymously to Realitybiteswithkendamsel with the motives of sharing some provoking thoughts I believed bothers not only me. If anyone had told me that a time in a woman's life would come when she would be the one looking for her man. I would had at least considered it true even if I wouldn't agreed to such statement. Be yourself and the right man will find you so they say,but,I didn't expect at 27 am still finding the right man. Be the Woman you want your Man to be,so have heard and read. That to a very large extent is reasonable. Our modern world or better still the actualization of our true meaning has gone beyond seeing ourselves as just a housewife. We were told to be independent,self opinionated,career driven,smart and strong as if we are inherently weak. Feminism or whatever its called is not my problem right now. Most times I primp in the mirror,looking inwardly at my reflection,I would just smile,more of what seems like a smirk."How can yo...

He desires not only the juicy juice but also the fruit that makes up the juice. It is no uncommon to hear among ladies "All guys want sex" neither will guys stop the chase to get down beneath the skirts. To ignore that simple fact is to emasculate him. A man's virility makes up his manliness and his manliness is his sexual prowess,while his sexual prowess is his power house. It will be less witty of she who thinks he never wants me for sex,but wise of she who knows his desires for sexual expression is by far the strongest and most impelling of all the human emotions and for this very reason,this desire when harnessed and transmuted into actions,other than that of physical expression depicts he's meant for more than Bang! The impression that all guys want sex is actually a myth. If it was just sex,he never would get married. He would just simply visit pimps than wanting to be in a relationship. Yes,believe it or hang it on skeptic, he's meant for more than ba...

I knew him,I was caught in and he stoops me to conquer fear. I was in Love with Love and the future seems so bright with no slight of blur. Don't call it madly in love,for to be mad is to lose senses, I was sanely overwhelmed with a man Love makes me Love. Yes it was inexplicable as I was completely swept off my feet,so I never figure out why's. His smiles put smiles on my face, his giggles makes me tickle,even,when he frowns,it amuses me and of course his laughter makes me laugh out loud. No ration to what Love can do. I was the set priority kind of lady as I always like to hit my target and give less room for distractions. My relationship wasn't a distraction as I fear it would derail my academic pursuits.Though,I became carried away at times,perhaps its necessary to feel that way. Albeit,I was strong,focus,determined,optimistic and uphold faith in God. Have you ever experienced that feelings of security balance because your relationship is like an Omega? That exactly ...

The fact that you don't have a prince doesn't mean you aren't a princess,and that you don't have a princess doesn't imply you aren't a prince. Whatever reasons you are single is a blessing in disguise to find out your identity.Just you may not know singlehood prepares you to become a better you.You want to know how? Attitude:The disposition of your mind revolving how you think,act,respond,feel and percept makes up your attitude.It may be weird,irritating,good or bad.No one is prone to perfection. Our imperfections is there to makes us perfect.Don't oversight your flaws,they are there to remind you,there's always a reason to work on your better self.You can't be too real without any.Whoever is gonna walk into your life must be willing to accept all of You. So; Rethink.Regrow.Refurbish and Rebrand. Just don't do make Believe. Faith: Serve your God,your creator when and while you still can. Hey! Don't hide under the disguise of serving God ...

Allow your mind bathe in the memories of how you met What you shared What you had The fun that radiates the hearts like it will know no boredom,the sensation attached,blurring the vision. The thumping of heart beats to the blood pump rhythm like it can never be broken. The ecstasy filled with  a sweet smelling savour in its clear deception of living in paradise. The beautiful memories of Love can thus be too sweet to think it can yet gives a sour taste.. What Now? You feel like a wet mouse? You die every minute while you still live? You growing resentment? You feel your heart is messed with? You want to scream they are all the same exclaim? And damn it! "All hell is to Love"!!!seems like a conclusive remark.... Just before you conclude "ALL HELL IS TO LOVE" You are human who can love and gets hurts and that's OK. LOVE is whimsical and temperamental it comes when it pleases and goes away without warning. If you believe yourself unfortunate becau...

I was sitting doodling,caught in my own fantasy,my muse got geared,and ignited as it drove with speeds,and halts at a labyrinth of Rhetoric junction. This is the labyrinth of the mind bombarded with tons of rhetorics in magnitude inscriptions.An inscription caught my fancy as my eyes bulge on with a fixed gaze, I could feel my muse loud but inaudible wishing to my mind on a reverie thoughts of "IF I COULD THINK LIKE A MAN" Yes! If I could think like a man,I would understands that marriage is a phase of life not a whole of it. There wouldn't be any desperate tension to walk down the aisle without proper self evaluations. Pressure from parents,family,friends and society would be dismissed as readiness comes only with ones mind,soul, body and spirit. A wedding banquets, paparazzi jingles, floral bouquets,crystal lightening chiming bells, (aso-ebi)brac-a-brac craze,gluttony dishes coupled with its miscellaneous were just a fascinating trifle.It doesn't have to be ...

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Love is in the air and whoops!Everyone is flowing with it painting the Sky Red. It's a lovers day after all,so let's rock it like it won't come again...But then,check out; On What VAL Is and Not It's a special day to appreciate your loved one's. Everyday is special,it isn't the only day to do that. It's a day to love and feel loved,it isn't the only day to search for love. It's a day to feel special,it isn't a day to wait for someone to make you feel special. It's a day to shower your self with gifts,it isn't a day to feel moody cos there is none to do that. It's a day to keep your sanity,it isn't a day to loose it. It's a day to stick with your man with his little asset,it isn't a day to peep around if you could get a rich guy. Its a No no!! It's a day worth remembering, it shouldn't be a day agonising over. It should be a day you still wish to keep that pretty naive bae and not a day to roughly pop her...

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