INNER CRITIC; Dear Leo and Belle

It warms my cockle to write to you both. It's been half a decade we saw. Pretty years past.
It occur to me more vividly how you twos have to face life's struggle all to yourself.
I recalled your mother had a post natal death and the pain that strucked when my elder brother, your father, died of Leukemia Ten years ago.
Life has showed you both it's grievances just too early enough.

My heart longed for you both, as the awareness of your welfare filters to my hearing. Often times, I wished I could have a firsthand oversight over both of you, albeit we are undeniably several seas and mountains apart from each other.

How well, having heard of the many shots and trails the two of you are undergoing, I feel it is needful I write from my corner to you both, shedding you from becoming victim of happenstance.
It is worth noting that you both are grown ups, now in mid-twenties. Wisdom is then needed for direction and redirection.

To begin with, can I ask, how are you doing, Leo? I wish to hear your response, but I can perceive you are not doing well as you should.
It is no news that life has served you some toils beyond your age. I also assume you have many questions stored up in your heart begging for  answers.
You really can't fathom how life could be so fair to some and hard on others.
Why should life give you sour over salt, you often ask?
I could feel the pulse in your veins and hear so loud your heart thumps. It is so glaring you are on the verge to giving up and throw in the towel. Or of what use is the towel when you sweat profusely even in cold.

Hello pretty Belle, it got my heart puzzled of how you got stuck with that worthless son of a gun who maltreats you with special treat. I still don't seems to understand how you have given yourself in totality to  him as if your life depends on dating him. Can't you see he has lost respect for you? You claim you loved him so much, but darling, he never seems to love you. He has even graduated into punching you as though he is Floyd Mayweather.
How can you be enduring the pain you self inflicted. How come you stick with him like he hypnotize you. He deflowered you, fine, but he never cherish that fact. You are only a succor to his sexual call. Awfully, he cheats on you, exploit and even collect the stipends I send you. He is just a boyfriend and not a husband. Belle darling, You can't afford to stay with a boy you think to be a man. He is got no plans for himself neither for you. You don't want to marry to disaster, that is like moving toward the edge of a cliff when you know another step further will make you fall.

Leo, I know you have failed countlessly. You struggled through university with carry-overs as though it were Grammy awards. I was told how you were duped in an attempt to travel oversea. So, your lover girl even cheated on you with your best friend.
The disappointment stamping you around in your vade to earn a decent living is heart rending. 
I empathize with you both wishing all of these may not crossed your path had it been your parents were alive.

How about the inner nagging thoughts that cast doubt on your goals and often undermine your accomplishment, echoing 'You are a  failure' 'You can't make it' 'Don't try again, you will fail again' 'You won't get what you want' 'There are no better guys out there' 'You are of no good' 'What makes you think your girlfriend/boyfriend will love you'? 'You are only a sex object' 'you are not appealing' 'You are ugly and too fat' 'Nobody loves you' 'No one care about you' 'Just go and perish'...

Every person is divided; part of us is goal directed and self possessed, while another part is self critical, self denying and even self destructive.
This "anti-self" perpetuate a negative thought process which psychologist refers to as  the critical inner voice.
The critical inner voice is formed out of painful early life experiences in which we witnessed or experienced  hurtful attitude towards ourselves and those close to us.
As we grow up, we unconsciously adopt and integrate this pattern of destructive thought towards ourselves and others.
When we fail to identify and separate from this inner critic, we allow it to impact our behavior and shape the direction of our lives.
It may sabotage our successes, our life, our relationship, preventing us from living the lives we want to lead and becoming the person we seek to be.

Inner critics is not a reflection of reality.
It is an internal enemy.
Inner critic belittle us.
It downside our potential.
It makes us wonder what life is all about and often keep us in perpetual fear of the unknown.
It is a lie, draped in falsehood, borne of deceit
Don't be imprisoned by it.
Don't allow it bewitch you.
Do not act on the directives of your inner critic.
Take action that represent your own point of view, who you want to be and what you aim to achieve.
By identifying and separating from and acting against this destructive thought process,you will grow stronger, while your inner critic grows weaker.

Gentle Leo, every dawn is hope assured. You might have failed, but you have not fallen. It is time to fight back. Fight for the dreams that were such a vital part of you rather than getting yellow.
You are a young man with most of your days ahead of you.
You were made for more. Believe in yourself. You will make it.
Belle de beau, you are better than who you think you are. Stronger than the inner call whispering the old saying of "The devil you know is better than the angel you don't know" Stupid sooth saying so to say.
Break out, let go. Kill your sentiment, poison your prejudice about yourself.
For you are beautiful, intelligent and amazing.

Let me remind you the words of Marianne Williamson; "Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure, it is our light not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually who are you not to be? YOU ARE A CHILD OF GOD"...
Love from
Uncle Richard.

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