VIRGINITY; What we were never told.

Virginity does not break or make us. They say it is the greatest gift we ever could present to our man, no it isn't! Every part of a woman is a gift to her husband.

To be a good girl does not lies in being a virgin. Teach the young girl to love herself, cherish her body and be aware that she's a complete human, special and beautiful. Her virginity is a state of her sexual innocence which shed her away from external circumstances. She's not naïve or a holier-than-thou. She can be smart, intelligent and curious.

Good upbringing is never telling her to remain a virgin till she gets married or that her husband will cherish her has no say in this. Let her know virginity is not a guarantee to a good marriage nor to finding a good man. What attracts a good man is her invaluable quality which reflects in and out of her with no perfection, reminding her she is not impeccable and it's fine.

It's a choice made not because of moral persuasion or religious obligation and whether the reclaim or original virgin is not a claim to loving God.
She needs a guide and a comforter, which is why seeking Christ is not doing God a favor but it is all there's to seek in a world where immorality echoes beyond the heavenly cymbals.

It is how it were difficult to put through, how it is to compromise, how it seems difficult to denied the body of sexual pleasure based on the decision to put through with Christ that inspires and not how it were easy because of religionism; That seems like a tale of tomorrow which is inevitable.
One fact remains she did because she choose to giving her whole to one man saving herself from premarital hurdles and looking forward to savoring the tranquility of conjugal bliss with one man for as much as marriage worths the wait with a sense of pride in herself to a girlhood youthful exuberance saying to herself "I am the girl my daughter can be".

It was a patriarchal idea that it mean more to her husband. As to loving or cherishing her more has a zero nothing with her virginity. More of everything to do with herself.

The greatest gift does not lies in the vagina, she is the carrier of it, so, she is the greatest gift and it has absolutely nothing to do with the man.
With an hymen, she's whole, without an hymen she's whole.

They should stop placing our dignity in our vagina, for all the part of our body signifies dignity.

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