“Hey, little girl, you will grow up, you will figure out your career, you will find someone who loves you and you will grow up to become an adorable woman.” These were lines that sings solo in my mind and little did I know how soon it will al l be. The cock crow at 3am woke me up, my eyes open wide as clear as the morning bright. I took up my phone to read my morning devotion, as I proceeded, my phone bleeped with a message from my bank wishing me a Happy Birthday. A warm birthday wish that got me laughing that early morning came from my Darling Twin Brother whom I shared an amazing life with. I took to praising God for yet another day, praying my way into the day. When I was 10 , I had looked forward to my twelfth and when I blew the candle, my anxiety lingers for sixteen- I desired for a big bust, curved hips, and I utmostly wanted a leveled up height. Sweet sixteen for me wasn't as I expected, I was more like twelve in physique. My secondary growth took a ...

You never can know until you actually know. The mirror is my reflection they say, I stood there not on a mere admiration of my appearance but to vividly look keenly into my inner self and ask myself the very cogent rhetorics am in search of answers to. Who am I ? Am I who they define me to be or whom I define myself to be ? What if ? Just what if I woke up blind tomorrow, deaf or dumb, what happens to me? Who will care? How will my loved and beloved ones react? Will the society pity my existence or shun me? Whose loyalty will I earn? Who will be there under what may? I ask, what happens to my existence? Now, I turn the questions around, just what if something tragic befall the ones I acclaimed love to rendering their physical abilities useless. Will I be there for them? Will I remain loyal to loving under whatever circumstances? Actually, not any can give sincerity to such questions neither can I too. Disability is a stigma no one likes to purchase. But, life can't be fair fo...

Okiey dokiey, we are all allowed to feel however we want and there's permit to express different views or thoughts and this is what we term as acceptance to own ones opinion. What some folks term as right may be disregarded by others as total wrong. Every human race hold some human standards, values and norms plus principles that safeguards each and everyone's conduct for a sane life in an organized society. Immorality can be but anything that possesses no morality - and there are tons of them. Religious or not, we all believe in the law of good and bad- we must understand that living the virtuous or attaining some degree of virtues does not inherently mean seeking for perfection but striving or better say willingness to improve oneself. The world is evolving and revolving, denoting and connoting change. This change we try to accept, adjust to and imbibe into. In our modern enlightened society, the segment part of it is our sexualized society-regarding the fact that sex has be...

“ Bullshit everywhere, same shit all the time and so it' s a widespread syndromes of all time ” .. " It is not until someone drag you into hell that you know the world isn't a fair place for all of us " Says Afoke a 27 year old entrepreneur who was one among the other female who shared their own version of Abuse experiences. "I lived in my world where my destiny had it all decided for me by my parents. I was sent to a distant relation's house to help with house chores and baby sitting, housemaid job we call it in my culture and you dare not object to as it a means of surviving in a poor family. I ain't the poor thing, my parents were. They don't have enough money to cater for all 8 children with their own mouth to feed making us a total no of 10 in an old fashioned house my grandpa left my father with. Peasant farmers owns life happiness because they can make their own food but it wasn't an easy thing to always wait till harvest time before...

Virginity does not break or make us. They say it is the greatest gift we ever could present to our man, no it isn't! Every part of a woman is a gift to her husband. To be a good girl does not lies in being a virgin. Teach the young girl to love herself, cherish her body and be aware that she's a complete human, special and beautiful. Her virginity is a state of her sexual innocence which shed her away from external circumstances. She's not naïve or a holier-than-thou. She can be smart, intelligent and curious. Good upbringing is never telling her to remain a virgin till she gets married or that her husband will cherish her has no say in this. Let her know virginity is not a guarantee to a good marriage nor to finding a good man. What attracts a good man is her invaluable quality which reflects in and out of her with no perfection, reminding her she is not impeccable and it's fine. It's a choice made not because of moral persuasion or religious obligation and whet...

It warms my cockle to write to you both. It's been half a decade we saw. Pretty years past. It occur to me more vividly how you twos have to face life's struggle all to yourself. I recalled your mother had a post natal death and the pain that strucked when my elder brother, your father, died of Leukemia Ten years ago. Life has showed you both it's grievances just too early enough. My heart longed for you both, as the awareness of your welfare filters to my hearing. Often times, I wished I could have a firsthand oversight over both of you, albeit we are undeniably several seas and mountains apart from each other. How well, having heard of the many shots and trails the two of you are undergoing, I feel it is needful I write from my corner to you both, shedding you from becoming victim of happenstance. It is worth noting that you both are grown ups, now in mid-twenties. Wisdom is then needed for direction and redirection. To begin with, can I ask, how are you doing, Leo...